If you open any girl´s agenda you will probably find the same sentence.
This magical proposition gives us confidence in something we are always looking for: REAL FRIENDSHIP.
"What characteristics does reality have, for we can belive it is real? It is consistent - it doesn´t make big changes every time- and it has to be in a context -real things have a history. The context helps us to understand the meaning of things. It makes them significative."1
What a friendship needs to be real are precisely these characteristics: consistence and a history behind. You´ve got to know that that friend is always going to be there for whatever you need and that friend needs to know at the same time you´ll be there for him/her. The other thing is that making friends takes it´s time and the time you spend knowing more and more the people you met, conforms a history made of good and bad decisions, good times and bad times, things that didn´t happen but had to, or vice versa...
And we can ask ourselves: what´s the friendship? I found a poem about it and I thought it would be perfect to answer part of this big question:
It is a door that opens,
an outstretched hand,
a smile that encourages you,
a look that understands you,
a tear that shares your pain,
a word that encourages you,
and a critique that improves you.
Applause that stimulates you,
a meeting that rejoices you,
a favor without reward,
a giving without demanding,
and wait ... without fatigue. 2
these verses explain the function that most of us think a friend should have in our lifes. But we can´t forget that friendship is reciprocal; this that you want for you, that person wants it too from you. And friends are expected to be respected and loved as what they are and not only for what they do for us.
Well, in any moment of that history of friendship-most of the times, at school- that very friend of yours takes your agenda and writes down the sentence in question. And it remains there forever -that means until the course ends up, maybe a summer else. That´s, to say it anyway, the symbol of our friendship: F4E.
But then, there are those cute and most of the time emotive dedications we write down when we are about to finish the course and we are probably not seeing each other for all the vacation. It was these kind of little poems that I wanted to mention today. They are specially about friends and frendship. And, many times, they express them better than a profesional poem would.
Just an example:
If I were driver,
I would bring you in my car.
but as I am not at all,
I carry you in my heart.3
That´s a poem and, well, that´s friendship.
Pilar
1. Don Eduardo Terrasa, anthropology proffesor at UNAV.
2.http://www.tubreveespacio.com/poemas-01ab05/que%20es%20la%20amistad.htm
3. That is a poem of my invention,; I composed it by modifying a typical spanish one.
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